my folks always said "whats for u won't go by u "------so in a way yes I do
think there is a reason for everything that happens-----just wish that the way to the end result wasn't so traumatic!
Guess u have to face the bad(stupid,tastless,weird,nasty--etc etc) to truely recognise the good----------------and therefore shape u'r future
I nurse people whose destiny lies in the hands of others------they have very limited choices and say over what happens to them-------------their destiny sealed---and beyound them.

If you r in the position to make changes to better your lot ---you r blessed, If you r in the position to make changes to better someone's lot---you r truely blessed!

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Don't pet the sweaty things!!!!