My dear lady, I believe by now most of us have been both the fox and the hound at different times. Personally I usually prefer to be the leader the first couple of intimate encounters. It just feels natural for me to be the explorer. It seems to take the pressure of my lover as she can guide me to her preferences. After we are comfortable enough with each other I will introduce some variations. I have found after this point we are secure with each other and ourselves enough to really get our freak on. It seems we start taking turns with initiation and direction.

Works for me!

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