Okay, long story short, my wife has always gone out with men who always oppressed her and now that she is with me and I am not that way I am starting to realise that she is a very dominant person underneath even though she does not realize that.

Because of my previous history (and genes for that matter), I am the type of person that does his damndest to do the oposite of what anybody says. With your parents, that's normal. With your wife, that's deadly.

What do I do so that we stop driving each other nuts.

Wow that was short