I suggest you see a therapist to deal with both the depression issues and the intimacy issues as well. I suffered along with my wife when she went through post-partum and I know how devastating it is. Please get some help. It doesn't have to be as bad as it is.

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Lots of people talk and few of them know, soul of a woman was created below

I can't get through to her 'cause it doesn't permit
But I'm gonna give her everything I've got to give.

I hear your sweet voice calling
out my name
As I stare from a six foot cell
And from beyond I heard the words
Deceptively Yours