Thank you guys for your advice so far. I suppose my main problem with all this is that he wants me to come out there for medical school and live with him, but the cow and free milk thing I just can't seem to get out of my mind. He says he wants to be financially stable before marrying and out of school, and so do I, yet I would really like to know that committment is on the horizon before I pack up my life here and move a thousand miles away for him. I certainly don't want to put a stop to his hobbies, since we share most of them and spend a good deal of our time together biking and such. I suppose my main concern is that I am living my life for our future together, going to a cheap school so we won't be in debt when we are starting out together, planning to go to grad school where he is, and I'm just not seeing that I'm being met half way. Am I jumping the gun and going nutty here? I've not mentioned most of this since I DON'T want to pressure him at all.

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