Hehehe....I seem to be following you guys around! Lol

I've had a much higher sex drive than most of my past S/Os and have often resorted to masturbation.

As for the differences between men and women's reactions to these things, I could write you an essay!

First off, if you usually want more sex than your woman, and she then comes onto you when you're not in the mood, she'll be confused. She'll be like 'But he's always bugging me for sex and now I'm offering it to him, why doesn't he want it?' You can understand that, I'm sure. My sex drive died down a lot when I was with my ex, and I often turned him down, but on the few occasions I made a move to him, HE always turned ME down.....it was though he was giving me a taste of my own medicine. This used to leave me feeling pissed off and if your woman has even a vague inkling that that may be happening, that may explain her annoyance (even if it's completely untrue in your case - we are paranoid creatures you know!)

I'd also say that if you are usually the one making the moves sexually (which sounds as if it's the case) then perhaps she's feeling pressured and there is NO bigger turn off than feeling like you SHOULD be having sex with your guy. I've tried having sex because I felt guilty about the fact that I hadn't done it with him in ages, and I actually had a panic attack, burst into tears and we had a hideous situation on our hands.

Also, one final thing, when she asks you why you don't feel like sex, she's perhaps just showing concern for you. Just going to run this scenario by you - it may be totally inaccurate but it's entirely possible that it's a situation you can relate to:

She's trying to get close to you, show you affection and you turn her down. She snuggles up to you, not quite believing you're saying no and asks why not. You feel a bit defensive, because why should you have to explain yourself and perhaps don't open up to her (men Do tend to bottle their emotions more than women). She's tried to make a connection with you, first on a sexual level, then on an emotional one and you have rejected her on both levels. This pisses her off.

And yes, you're free to ask her why she doesn't want sex, but the result may well be a "heated discussion". If you don't want to know the reason then don't ask.....although I don't reckon much to your relationship's chances of success if you're not prepared to hear about your S/O's problems.

Sorry to be blunt, but you did ask the question!

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