I've also found that pushing out, like you're having a bowel movement, can also help relax and open the sphincter a bit.

Other than that, just what everyone has said: relaxation, lube, and desire are crucial, as is going slow and taking your time. Definitely an idea to work up to it - eg a small butt plug, then a small vibe, then a regular vibe then his cock. Depends on how much money you're prepared to spend of course.

Good luck, and let us know how it goes

CasperTG

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