05-28-2003, 06:22 AM
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Originally posted by jennaflower
Damn.. I am SCREWED... cuz if finding happiness and love completely depends on my looks... then I am dooooomed... thanks for the great news. 
Sorry SilentSoul (in advance) but I am about to be completely tough on you.
I am not sure how long you have been married, but I am betting that it must be less than 2 years... and honestly... you have lots of growing up to do. If you are as young as I think, you have a whole lot of learning to do, and you might be behind the curve. Sorry... but the reality of the matter is this: NO ONE is perfect and NO ONE is gonna fit your "ideal" image that you have conjured up in your mind.
There is no such thing as a woman without physical flaws... not unless she has enough money to keep a plastic surgeon on retainer and a medicine cabinet full of botox. If that is the type of woman that you are searching for, best remember that it all comes at a price... a pretty heafty one...
As you get into your 20's and approach your 30's, you will begin to realize (and I fear you will learn this the hard way) that there is sssssssssooooooooo much more to a woman that the shape of her nose... that is ONLY the tip of the iceberg sort of speak. The saying that beauty is only skin deep is the truth.
Now.. slamming you as I have... I will agree that it sounds like you do have some valid issues that need to be dealt with now. The key to fixing this marriage (if that is really what you want) is communication. Honestly speak with your wife, share with her your feelings (as gently and with as much tact and compassion as you can muster), your desire for her to work on these issues, and your reassurance that you will support her every step of the way.
I can't help but ask, being that you are young, and obviously haven't been married for more than a year or two, why is it that you married her at all?
Once again SilentSoul... I apologize for my bluntness on this subject... but I am NOT a beauty, in any stretch of the imagination, and I can't bare the thought of thinking for a moment that this will cause me to be single forever...
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okay, first off, I thank you for your bluntness and your kindness.
Why'd I marry her? Unfourtunately, due to a few slight mental disorders and my bad past, I have a big problem with trust. I trust almost nobody. The minute my eyes laid on her, I trusted her, and from that moment on I knew that I would love this woman for the rest of my life. I might not like her every now and again, she might get on my last fuckin nerve, she might always look as good as before but who does?
No matter what I'm always going to love my wife and I would never leave her. It will be a long time (or hopefully never) before I would ever cheat on my wife. Understand that before this relationship, I never even looked at another girl if I was with someone.
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