Bright Eyes,
Though not oft to to be enquired of, you may have the answer hidden away within your own heart. The quest may not be one of love but of your own opinions that must be done.

A query or two I do have for you. Most forward of them is your attitude on love and sexuality. Are you able to not only love a person you are not intimate with as well as be intimate with one you do not love? If you do not answer yes whole heartedly to both, my suggestion would be to find one you can have all to yourself. Tiss best not to break your heart when you cannot have that which you desire most. My second query is are you at all jealous? If you could not stand to watch the object of your lust sating himself with his wife I would once again strongly urge you not to meet with him. The thought of him with another woman could be a very great pain for you.

As he is worried that he may fall for you, you must discover if he is of a like heart as you on these same issues. In all, making sure the two of you are compatable as lovers and as friends will be paramount if the two of you decide to go ahead with a relationship.

There are a few issues that you may also need to consider. Being in the Navy, he does risk much if he is to have an affair with you. The law as it applies to him is not the same as it is for you. Were the two of you to be discovered, he would risk prosecution under the Uniform Code of Military Justice, somehthing you needn't fear. Also being in the service he cannot control where he will be nor how long he will be there. For you this can be a great concern for he could be sent half way around the world on a moments notice. He could also be kept away for years.

The last issue you must consider is how being with him will affect your own romantic desires. Would he be willing to give you up were you to find another amour? Would he be understanding if you find your knight in shining armour? Will you be holding yourself back from your own desires and goals if you are to be with him?

For some, the thrill of a clandestine relationship is worth it. For some knowing the object of their lust is "Taken" adds to their satisfaction. For some such a mutual arrangement work well. It is the cases where it does not that cause me to bring words of caution.

In all, I wish for you to enter such an arrangement with eyes open and heart strong. I also wish for you to avoid such an arrangement should you decide it is not what you wish. As you are the one who is asking I share my councel in the desire that you will be happy and will chose that which shall bring you the greatest joy. My concern is that you would let your heart lead you into something that would bring you pain. My writings will hopefully temper your desire until after your mind has reasoned through your wishes. At that time, with your mind in agreement, I hope you can follow your heart to happieness.

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