*gets the Doc Johnson harness & locking dildo out*

From a woman's perspective -

Part of lovemaking is knowing that you are giving your partner pleasure. If your partner is receptive to anal play (rimming, finger insertion) then the next step would be to try a dildo or butt plug. See how he feels about the sensation (not the mental worry of being gay or perhaps having homosexual tendencies) but the actual pleasure that is being received and given. Then, if you do decide to move forward to a strap-on, start small and them move up in size or style (ribbed, vibrating, shape)

The sensation for me rocking back and forth - holding onto his hips, is more emotionally satisfying than physically. I do however, have a special bullet that can be inserted into the pocket of the harness that will give me a clitoral orgasm as I am thrusting into him.....

Conversation/Communication..... that is the key....

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