There's really no one in my circle of friends who would have any idea I come to a site like this (although a few of them likely wouldn't be surprised). Family of course have no idea....
It's just one of those things that hasn't come up in a conversation with anybody, and wouldn't be something I introduce either.

So is it a secret? Yeah, but only in that nobody's ASKED me and I haven't said anything either. (don't ask don't tell, anyone)?