BigBear57, you and I have talked enough recently that you know I can identify w/what you are saying. And I am one whose heart usually rules rather than my head. I think the nurse in me, though, is speaking here out of concern for him now and down the road. I would really like to know how old he and she are. For me that would be a big factor, too. If he were my age and he was expecting that, truly, this would be the last love of his life, I would be more apt to say be careful but go for it. If he is in his early 20s and has his entire life ahead of him, w/the big possibility that he may yet have a number of partners in his lifetime, I'd hate to see him have to tell all of HIS future partners that he has this disease. It is uncomfortable for men, but it is worse, I think, for women, since we often have more flareups when we have our periods, and we have to be concerned about the dangers to our fetuses when we are pregnant (regarding delivery, for example). Certainly he doesn't want to end up in the position of possibly giving it to anyone else either.

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