I don't know how to say this w/o sounding harsh, and I sure don't mean to. I was sad, though, that you were not able to talk w/him when he approached you. I certainly understand that it caught you off guard. I sure hope that you will be able to talk w/him soon, however, and let him know that coming to you was fine.

You have a great opportunity w/your intelligence and insight, especially as a woman, to give him some wonderful advice and opinions. You could have a wonderful influence on him. I hope you are very flattered that he thought so highly of you and your opinion that he would come to you for that information. I'd sure prefer that my brother come to me than to his friends who may be misinformed, if he didn't feel comfortable going to your parents.

I know it is easy for me to say all that, because I have always been comfortable talking about all of those things w/my siblings or even friends who wanted some advice or who needed information. My brother is 7 years younger than I am; in fact, today is his birthday (Happy Birthday, Dave!), and he did come to me when he was about your brother's age. It was one of the last conversations we were ever able to have before communication between us was cut off for several years. I was so glad that he wanted to know what I thought about it all.

We've been communicating w/one another for a number of years again now, and we still bounce the topic of sex and relationships off one another. I'm so grateful that we feel close enough to do that.


I hope someday you will feel that way, too. Like I say, it is such a wonderful opportunity to have an influence on him in that area for what may be years to come.

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Communication is the key.