1) what dildo(s) do you use? Small anal vibrator for myself and a variety for my wife.

1a) what types/sizes do you use for either? Lifelike penis vibe and a bullet for my wife. Small standard looking vibe for me.

2) have you ever video taped yourself having sex/masturbating? Yes

2a) how much does it turn you on to do so? It was fun.

3) WOMEN: do you find it a turn-on to watch a guy use/use on a guy, a dildo? She enjoys using one on me during fellatio, but doesn't care for seeing me handle it during self pleasure.

4) do you find it a turn-on do you find it to watch your partner masturbate? I love it!

5) have you ever considered same-sex experiences? Yes

5a) have you ever had same-sex experiences? Experimented in youth but didn't go all the way.

6) GUYS: if you've performed anal on yourself, what have you used? My favorite vibe

6a) how often do you do it? Once a month perhaps.

7) do you prefer foreplay? or just jump right into things? I love foreplay with sex. When I'm alone, there isn't much.

8) have you ever used a vegetable/fruit to masturbate? No, but that melon is flirting with me.

9) does reading about the sexual experiences of others help you to be me open with yourself? Absolutely

10) do you masturbate more to porn or more alone (i.e. no porn)? More often sans porn

11) do you find the 'real-life' pics (such as on pixies) a bigger turn-on than porn? I love looking at regular people showing their bodies or engaged in sexual behavior. Real people are very sexy and it also helps to see that those that don't fit into society's narrow mold of "sexy bodies" are very attractive!

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