Welcome to Pixies'!!!

He's right... But how do you get to the point where you have that confidence & enthusiasm??? That's what a lot of us struggle with, I think.

Personally, I try to just lock onto his eyes as I go, as much as possible --- the more I concentrate on his face, the less self-conscious I feel. Plus, it's kind of like bio-feedback: you get to monitor his reaction and adjust to what he obviously likes the most. That becomes almost instinctive when you're lost in his gaze --- it's not something you think about, it's something you feel.

Another thing I find very helpful is music. Again, it all has to do with being able to lose myself in it. My personal preference is really sultry, hot Latin jazz. (Cesaria Evora's recording of Besame Mucho from Great Expectations is perfect, as is almost every other song she's ever recorded; or if I want something a little faster-paced, I go for the Buena Vista Social Club and other Cuban son...)

I keep insisting (in other posts) on having fun. It goes for the striptease too, especially if you're nervous. Try a song like 'Let's Do It (Let's Fall In Love)' or 'Love For Sale' (I love Ella Fitzgerald's versions of both) or 'I'm In The Mood' (John Lee Hooker and Bonnie Raitt); or even 'You Can Leave Your Hat On' or basically anything else from the Full Monty soundtrack (lots of great playful stripping music there) and really camp it up --- if you don't feel confident enough to do a 'real' striptease, then try a parody of one! It makes the big steps so much easier if you can laugh about them, because all the pressure is off... And it's magical, because you'll find that it's still very sensual and erotic, so it still has the desired effect in the end!

Feel yourself moving to the music, feel your hands on your skin, and enjoy making yourself feel good --- strip to show him how aroused you are, not to see how aroused you can make him, and you'll end up getting both of you far hotter!

One last thought, before I step back off this soap-box. Make the best use of the body you've got. Skinny people can dance one way; but women with real curves (like you and I) can dance another. Don't worry about sucking in your gut and other stuff that just creates a lot of tension in you; relax and let it all hang out, as they say! Let your breasts swing, caress the swell of your hips, and (as you're getting undressed) give him a good look at your cleavage and other voluptuous parts. He wouldn't be with you if he weren't attracted to your body, so don't try to make yourself something you're not --- just enjoy what you are, and he's bound to enjoy it too!!!

Good luck, and let us know how it all goes!

--- sweetstuff