As some of you may have noticed (or not), I have been rather silent on the boards as of late... not with the desire to be so... but more due to being in a rather reflective mood and attempting not to get tooo deep and bore anyone to tears...

This is about to change... LOL

I had a brief conversation with a dear friend/fellow (male) Pixie member this morning about some of the basic fundemental differences between Men and Women... especially online.

The general gist of the conversation is that both of us agreed that women tend to put a deeper emotional investment into their online relationships (especially with males) than men do. Yes, it can be argued that women being the "emotional" creatures we are make this same mistake in "real life" as well.

We also agreed that most of the emotional investment is due to "expectations". That women tend to allow themselves to "dream" or "expect" things in an online friendship with a man to progress and SOMETIMES read far too much into the possibilities... even if they are able to keep them to themselves, they are often under the surface... "What Ifs... or I Hope's"

Wonderful places like Pixies... in many ways... is a dangerous breeding ground for this kind of behavior... deep emotional attachment and grand expectations... This place allows ALL of us to open up to a level of candidness that rarely is able to be expressed in our daily lives... inching down any walls that we keep up in "real life" and exposing the most raw parts of our minds (and hearts).

Personally, I believe that the men here tend to allow us women to see examples of the "Knight and Shining Armor" kind of guy, who truly has a heart and a desire to please his partner. Unfortunately, these qualities are not as quickly apparent when meeting any man in real life... not at the get go... like it is here... we seem to be able to skip over all the uncomfortable awkward getting to know you stage.. and jump right into the HEART of the matter.

It seems to me that men are able to remove themselves, and to be honest, I am not exactly sure how that is done.. one of the amazing things I shall never understand. I have met men online, who come on strong and then finally give up... and have also come across those who string you along... until you bite... and then disappear.... as tho it is a game... and something tells me that there are women just as capable of the same cold hearted game.

So... I present to everyone a table for discussion... the basic differences between the sexes... what makes women so emotionally invested... what makes it so easy for a man to keep a level head.... do men ever find themselves with "expectations"?