Alone can be a good thing. Alone and lonely, while not a lot of fun, can at least teach you things about yourself. Alone with someone else.....there's more than the constant feeling of isolation. There's also an ongoing undercurrent of rejection, of failure, of being denied the closeness that SHOULD be part of a relationship, and of dishonesty. That last one might be puzzling if you haven't been there....but I thought that maintaining the myth that things really were ok both to myself and to the outside world was one of the most demoralizing parts.

I pulled the switch when I started to hate the person who wasn't or couldn't give me what I needed. It turns out that lonely may suck, but lonely in company is poisonous to everyone involved. It turned me into someone I didn't want to be, and I'll never ever do it again.

My 2 cents .