First of all, a BIG thankyou to all who have read this..... I feel a bit sorry for y'all, wading through all that!
BigBear 57 ~ Over the past 2 years or so, we (my ex and I) have got along pretty good, all things considered... even when the fiance came along. Now they're "officially" engaged, though, things seem to have taken a turn for the worse; I have no problem with him building a relationship with my daughter, after all he seems to be planning on being around for a while. My problem is if it's at MY expense...... and that AIN'T gonna happen, believe me!
jseal ~ I hope so too, thanks for your support
Lilith ~ Thanks hon..... I needed that!
jennaflower ~ I just got a copy of the agreement from the lawyers today. It states "..... Second party (me) shall have access to (R)
at least two weekends per calendar month........... to take into account the parties' shift patterns". Which is fine, I have no (real) beef about it...... BUT.... until recently, as I said before, it wasn't a problem seeing R anytime I wanted; on the contrary, it seemed like my Ex would phone me all the time "Can you look after R for a while/night/weekend..... NEVER a problem!! Now the fiance seems to be calling the shots.... she's even saying things to me I can TELL come straight from his mouth... I've known her nearly 17 years, and she just doesn't think OR speak like that! (I know that makes me sound as if a big part of this is "sour grapes", and, if I'm honest, I guess it is!!
As for what's best for R.... I guess I don't REALLY know the answer to that one!
Cheyanne ~ The diary thing sounds like a good idea.... I used that before, in a dispute with an old employer!! Thanks for reminding me!
Grumble ~ Cheers mate.... hope YOUR situation doesn't turn out the same way!
Oldfart ~ Thanks for your words, mate. Early days yet, but I'm sure they WILL be asking!!
Steph ~ (((HUGZ))) back! Yeah, we've been down the convo route already.... and I thought we HAD got things sorted!! Ho hum!
ukG2 ~ Thanks for that..... no, it isn't nice!
Lixy ~ Yes, I've met him quite a few times, in fact! My impression is, he's one of those boorish, "done it all" SMARMY people.... the stereotypical "salesman" type, y'know? (No offence to any salespixies!!
) Like I said, we did the 'sit around & chat' thing a while ago, and I thought we had everything sorted. Funny thing - 6 weeks ago, she wanted me and him to go out for drinks together ..... I'm afraid, THAT ain't gonna happen! (gotta draw the line somewhere!!) Thanx for the hug, hon!!
Jings...... that reply's longer than my original post..... thanks for "being there" everyone!
DM