Mae. I have had phone sex with a couple of ladies and you can make them orgasm with words and their thoughts. It is up to you as to whether you consider it cheating and how open minded your relationship is.

Don't really go out to those websites so can't help you there.

As for the timespan for de-sensatizing I think that if you do it several times a day that over time you will lose sensitivity but with time in between you should be good. I hope that helps.

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