Mae,

1) It is only cheating if you feel that it is and you know your husband would be upset with you for having phone sex.

2) Most websites are very discreet when you order pornography from them. It is best to check and make sure what their procedure is for billing and shipping is though also look at their privacy policy.

3) Not an expert at vibrators and I never knew about this problem. Maybe someone can send me to a link where I can read up on it sine I do enjoy using toys with my female partner.

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Well sir that seems to be someone else's problem.