I am female and LOVE anal sex. It takes time and patience to access that area though. You can get an anal lube with benzocaine from sex shops. Adam and Eve sell anal lube and anal easy which both work great. Just use plenty of lube and relax. I find a good dose of anal lube smeared on me and alot of ky smeared on my partner seems to work best. Start with a finger and then work in small vibrators and work your way up in size. You'll love it once full penetration is possible. It may actually take several sessions before you are ready to take it that far, but you'll enjoy every moment of stimulation.