Aubrey....sounds like a cool name..im amy..anyways what i findi s helpful, i know it feels good to do it freely..but what really gave me my first orgasm..i was nervous too. i was a virgin and masturbation just didnt help. so i turned to my boyfriend..i was really nervous at first...but once it got started he helped me into mine. theres so many ways..just keep trying, it will happen.