Burnout,

Now I'll give you my take on the matter. I've been married for 24 years now. When our children were born many years ago, I went through a similar situation. She was totally focused on the children, our sex lives went to shit, all that seemed to matter was being the MOM.. I handled it this way.

I sit her down and told her, without mixing words or trying to be polite, "These kids are going to grow up, wave goodby to you and go on to live their own lives. You my dear will be stuck with me for the rest of your life. Therefore, we together have to be priority one in this house because if we don't we won't be. Second, I realize that you have a long and busy day, and so do I. But, we have to "Make" time for us, and if we don't, again we won't be. If you can't make both of these things happen, we need to decide where we actually want this relationship to end up.

Needless to say, things changed in a drastic way. We couldn't have remained a family if "we" didn't take care of each other first.

Like I said, we've been together 24 years. Both kids are off on their own, and she is stuck with me,,, ha ha.....