An ex G.Fs previous B.F had not abused her for months and then out of the blue he beat her up so badly he put her in hospital for 2 weeks,her own mother did not even reconise her.he got 9 mths jail but because he had spent years degrading and beating her he convinced her it was her fault so she spent $2000 paying for his appeal and got him out within 2 mths.after he got out he played mind games with her.because of him she turned into an alcholic.after about 6 mths she got rid of him for the last time,gave up the drink and had never been happier.she is now married to a guy who dotes on her ,has 3 kids and is the happiest she has ever been.So my advice is get rid of the fuckwit because he aint going to change.It wont be hard to find somebody better than the dropkick you are with.Iwould hate to see the same thing happen to you as happened too my ex G.F.,as it took her years to sort out her problems,{one of the reasons we broke up},.So dig down deep,find the courage and get rid of the low life.