Welcome to PIXIES fire_317! I have been here for a short time and have found that this site offers both some fun as well as many insightful and not so insightful discussions.

First make sure both you and her pick out your first toy, no need to scare the shit out of her with a 2 foot monster dildo!

Second just work the toy into your normal, routine, and don't expect to use it every night.

Dude the key to any good/satisfying sex is to have an honest and open line of communication with your wife. Things should move from there.

I am sure the rest of these fine folks can give you some great tips as well. Good luck!

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