I'm fixin to confuse you some more. Okay, How do you know she never thinks about sex? Yeah she does. every woman does. Maybe you never give her the chance to make the first move? Do you ask her daily? Do you pay attention to her only when you want sex? I was on the other side of the fence one time and I was totally turned off by being constantly hounded for sex. Yeah me! LOL You know the question I hate the most? Am I gonna get some tonite? Now there's a sure fire turnoff for the evening. I don't make appointments for sex! I wanted just once for him to give me time to seduce him. I wanted to make love to him when he was least expecting it. Play it my way. I don't think telling her no is going to solve the problem. That's just going to cause another argument that you don't need and feelings will get hurt. When's the last time you sent her flowers just to say I love you? When is the last time you took her somewhere romantic? wrote her a loveletter? Told her she was beautiful and sexy as hell? Just ask her what turns her off. Something you're doing apparently does. If you're not , Then she needs to see if there's a hormonal problem. Then again a spouse will quit having sex because she is getting it from somewhere else too.


Any ideas on How you make the first move without it being pressurising and without losing spontaneity?


Yeah. Don't make the first move, give her time. If you think you have allowed a reasonable amount of time, it's time to talk. I don't know how long you two have been married but, sometimes it's not easy to keep the spice in your sex life. You have to work at it and you HAVE to COMMUNICATE.

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