with my current partner...the first time we see each other (we live 460 miles apart) is usually under half hour and i usually cum first. i love to draw it out and make it last...but since we only see each other one weekend every 3 or 4 weeks...i think we're both pretty worked up at first and need that quick fuck to release some of the tension. after that, he usually teases me and plays with me and teases me some more all day (and usually pins me down and fingers me to several orgasms at least once during the day). then when he finally gives in and gets naked with me or lets me start to play with him, an hour or so is probably average. he's *so* damn good to me