I have to wonder *outloud* had NA been shunned her for her choice to surf the net with a marriage license if we would have been receiving this same message from her husband?

Is that what he is suggesting, should we shun each person who happens upon this site and is married, reminding them that they are doing wrong (not sure who defines it as a wrongdoing)?

Or is this not even an acceptable act for singledom persons either?

It's interesting, being single myself and having made friends with married persons, and even had very intimate moments virtually, I've often questioned if it is right or wrong. I still don't know the real answer to that question, even for myself.

But, what I do know is that the first man to show me what true love means was someone I met virtually, someone who is married, and someone I still consider a wonderful friend. Our intamacy has ended as he repaired his marriage (afterall that's what he was seeking is someone to fill his emptiness), but we remain strong friends. As I see it, we were there for one another for a purpose. I filled his void, and helped lead him back to his wife, he taught me what love is truly about and hopefully someday I will be able to again experience such with someone who can give to me of themselves completely.

I know I am getting a bit away from the point of my post, but I must say that I am not surprised by this attack as I have seen it before. It's always the result of someone not sharing fully with their spouse for whatever reason. What will never cease to amaze me though is the attitude that everyone else in the situation is wrong. Such as this kind gent has indicated that we are wrong and have no rights to his wife. I won't get into how that word "RIGHTS" burns me terribly, but to each their own.

It's a shame the only way we could have made him happy is to shame, belittle, dislike, shun, and cast stones at NA - but I bet then we'd be blamed for not being very friendly people. It's a catch 22 that has no winning solution for this man.

Now that I've borrowed Lixy's soap box for far too long of a post, I will end it.

best of luck to you and yours kind gent. I hope that NA can show you what a warm and accepting place this is. Perhaps someday down the road you will be able to accept that this is not about pornography, or about being ravaged but that this is about a wonderful group of people spread across the globe that without the internet would not likely have the opportunity to interact. To learn and share with others about your life is an amazing opportunity that the internet has presented us with and I can only hope that someday all people will come to accept it for the wonderful resource it can be.

*dang got right back up on that box*

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