Hello Jeff,
I must say you have left me thinkin long and hard about some things....first, i must say that i'm still somewhat of a newbie here and never got to know your wife....but i do know she is very highly thought of and not for the so-called reasons you mentioned. And i do so wish peace and happiness to her as she goes this journey.....and yes, i do mean the peace and joy that passeth all understanding.
Secondly i find myself quite sad that you and she have had this sort of conflict. I feel I must say that i wonder if you let her be as sexually open with you as she NEEDS to be. And I say that not as one whom you chastise, but as a woman who has been in those same shoes. As two become one, please be patient with her and with yourself and with you two as a couple. Have the patience of God and love her and let her love as she NEEDS to. Sexuality does not fit a mold. Explore TOGETHER.....truly be as one at all times.
And lastly the sad part to me is that you don't know the real love that goes on here. I may be a newbie but i have seen the way they support and encourage each other. I am constantly encouraged and lifted up by the few i am getting to know. And it's more than just a sex thing....although that ain't such a bad perk.

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