Wow! That was all quite a read and very interesting. As a Christian myself I want to show the whole scripture that has been mentioned here.


New Living Translation
Mat 7:1 "Stop judging others, and you will not be judged.
Mat 7:2 For others will treat you as you treat them.* Whatever measure you use in judging others, it will be used to measure how you are judged.
Mat 7:3 And why worry about a speck in your friend's eye* when you have a log in your own?
Mat 7:4 How can you think of saying, `Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,' when you can't see past the log in your own eye?
Mat 7:5 Hypocrite! First get rid of the log from your own eye; then perhaps you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend's eye.


I can appreciate the shock you have had in learning of your wife's "secret life." I believe you are hurt and in pain over what you consider a betrayal of her trust and what you hold sacred.

But have you asked yourself why did she not tell you? Why did she have a need to seek out others to share her life with.

I have been on the internet for a year now and a Pixie player for a little over a week. I have been on many message boards including a board I love that is strictly a conservative Christian board. As much as I love the people there I see this sort of thing everyday. Christians judging and playing the holier then thou game.

I have seen nothing but respect shown to myself here at Pixies. I have met some very kind and great people already. You need to remember that we are complex humans with needs and desires.

My husband does know I am a Pixie girl. He has stood over me many times while I play the smut games. I show him the pics and avatars. We have an amazing sex life and that is not why I am here.

I am here because I like people and I like to have fun. I like the innocent flirting and the meaningful friendships that one can have.

Do I tell my husband everything I do here or elsewhere. No, but that's my business. I could tell him all I do but I like to have something that is just mine. I know for a fact that I don't neglect my duties as a wife. I have actually become a better wife now that I have an outlet for expressing myself.

I suggest you learn to allow her to be herself and not force her into the role you believe she should fit into. It will only cause resentment and rebellion and that will hurt your marriage a lot more then her showing a few pics and having a little fun with like minded people.