OK my turn...though I doubt Mr (t)shindon you have the courage to read this. But as you would look at your wife's activities perhaps you miss the point that there maybe somethings missing in your marriage. And just possibly you are part of the missing element in the marriage--something brought your wife here.

You might think it as something simple as just "sin". But as I have read very closely your words I see much of the problem thousands of miles away. It seems to me that you have too many of life's answers. That if a person does X then the result is going to be Y. Well, life is not so simple--working 65 hours a day, providing and making a determined effort to putting in "quality time" to make the marriage work is your way of applying X in your life to get the Y result--sad! You as most men of the cloth should realize that the spirit behind all actions are all that matters.

And like a fool you are ignoring a very important element in your wife's life. It is for you to find not me or anyone else to find. But your wife has sought it here. If I where you, I would get off my holier then thou high horse and take a long look at myself and see what element that you are not providing for your wife. I hate to prodict your future but if you don't--sadly as it is human nature to do so, it is just possible that someone other then you will provide it to your wife; maybe not here at Pixies, but perhaps else where.