(((Hugs)))

Being your friend.. and knowing you as I do... I am certain that this is tearing you up inside. I also know that you have no doubt made yourself available to her... and she knows that... that alone will make all the difference. Just continue to let her know that..

I HIGHLY suggest that you resist your urge to throttle him.. tho that is exactly what he deserves, it will be "D" that will ultimately pay the price and get the brunt of his retaliation. NOT to mention that you going to jail wouldn't serve a purpose (especially for M & E).

Have you considered calling a crisis hotline in your area... to ask for their suggestions? That may be the best place to start... if nothing else they will be able to give you tips on how to handle this situation..

HUGS..