Steph: I think that her problem is that she wanted the divorce until she got it...and now can't stand me going on without her. She is too immature to really sit down and have a real conversation with. It was ok for her to have an affair and have a child, but it isn't allright for me to date and have a relationship that doesn't involve her. I wished i knew how i could make her think that she has won, because that is the only way she will be happy. I keep hoping that if i don't respond to any of her letters that she will evenually get it. I wonder if moving away would help, i sure have considered that.