Thank you all for your advice and all except for one, support.

As most of you know I had a nervous breakdown several years ago and the biggest factor in it was a relationship where the communication was broken for long periods and it drove me to the brink of sanity.

I have learnt not to just let my own thoughts take control in this situation as due to previous experiences I get very pessimistic and depressed.

It has helped and I have settled down a bit and asked Curvy via email to give me a phone number to call so we can give each other support like a couple should.

Having watched both my parents die of cancer in the last couple of years I know only too well what she is going through and i am so concerned for her being the rock all the time and not having anyone to lean on herself. The last thing I want is for her to break down herself.