Until you're god damned good and ready for something more, stand your ground, Hon. You know best what you need right now.

As far as what happened to the guys, is it possible that the free and easy chaps you knew before your marriage went and got older? Now maybe you're on the wrong side of the curve. They're looking to settle down, finally, and you're not in that place any more. It's not malice, just bad luck .

Still, I'm sure you'll find playmates. Just keep looking. Many points to you for being honest with them up front. I'm sure they're just as frustrated that a great person doesn't want to commit as you are that they don't want to just play.

If that made any sense.....had a couple tonight