The CowGirl makes some very good points. Though I think Lilith has the closest thing to a general answer. That sort of attitude towards relationships is much more common in younger men - though of course there are some exceptions.

As a rule we have less at stake and a much more, for-the-moment kind of attitude. There's no pressure on us to settle down and we probably wouldn't listen to it even if there was!

I say find yourself some younger men who are capable of a conversation - there are some out there. We'd relish the chance for a bit of fun (especially the 'better fun') with an independent woman who knows what she's doing.