cyber would have to be my first choice....ahhh, the power of an imaginative mind and a good vocabulary......i do enjoy phone too, but not unless it's with someone i know well enough, plus, due to circumstances, phone can be so rushed sometimes......although phone as the culminating point for cyber is soooooo hot......as for cam, i don't have one (don't wanta send half the net off screaming into the night LOL) but i do enjoy watching if the person i'm cybering has one......and to answer lilith's question, yes, the more intimatly i know them, the better either choice is.