Oh yeah, just one more thing. You ain't a dumbass! We all get into situations that leave us feeling brainless, knowing there's a problem and looking for help isn't dumb. Just another dose of my 2 cents worth.

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As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will. He will be sure to repent - Socrates

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