Like Jseal referred to...after having been together for 10 years already, well you must have a pretty good grasp on what it takes.

My grandparents were married (to each other) for 62 years. 62 years! Their secret...they cared more about each other than they did themselves. It really was that simple. I have countless examples of the little ways they showed each other they cared.

They used to kiss every night at 7:00. I asked them seperately why they kissed every night at 7:00 and my grandmother said "Your grandfather likes when I kiss him." And what did my grandfather say? Yup, you guessed it. "Your grandmother likes when we kiss."

When my grandfather got home from work at 5:00 every day (because nothing going on at work was more important than coming home to his wife and family) my grandmother had dinner on the table for him. Now before you freak out and start screaming about how sexist that was, remember what I said earlier. She had dinner waiting for him because she wanted to. He would never have been upset over something like dinner. She did it because she cared about him.

The only thing I ever heard them argue about was changing the sheets on the bed. Whenever one would do it, the other would argue that they should've just left it for them. Can you imagine arguing with your spouse because they got to strip the bed and not you?

So...just care about Mr. Osuche.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.