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You seem like a cutie to me, and are evidently a very intelligent guy, but unfortunately, in life, it's not about 'switches' and things you do to 'attract' and 'repel' other people.

It's important to remember that women are people, and are individuals too, so the fact that you appear to be looking for a woman who is attracted to you, rather than one to whom your attracted may be counting against you. If you go on a date with a woman and she gets the impression that you're only interested in her because she's female, rather than because she's charming, witty, intelligent, attractive etc she's not going to want to take it further.

It may be that the women you encounter you are genuinely attracted to, in which case, the important thing is to communicate this to them. While women will value the fact that you're a clever guy, and that you have a good job in computers, you'll not be surprised to hear that most women aren't interested in hearing about them when they're out on a date with you. What will engage their attention is your ability to be charming, socially adept and a little flirtatious. Guys who haven't mastered those things, come across as very nervous, and that's unnerving to a lot of women...it makes us uncomfortable, for obvious reasons and if we go on a date that isn't actually enjoyable because we feel uncomfortable, we're not likely to be coming back for more.

The thing you have to remember, though, is that you're still very young, and that most 'quality guys' your age are having a lot less sex and a lot fewer relationships than you think. I know so many guys who were still virgins at your age, and older, it's just not something that they broadcast about, so don't feel that you're the only one and take the pressure off yourself. The best thing to do is get on with enjoying yourself, single or not, and gain some life experience which will help to shape you into an even more interesting person, and then, when you've forgotten all about trying to attract women, is when one who'll come along who's just perfect for you.