01-08-2005, 09:07 PM
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Join Date: May 2001
Location: Music City
Posts: 9,293
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Originally Posted by Kaelynn
Thank all of you for all your advice.
Just to clear something up, I don't openly discuss everything I am into or my personal life in general, only if I am asked point blank, even then my answers can usually be taken two ways, so it isn't like I brag or tell everyone I come in contact with, I do refrain from saying a lot.
The problem is this girl that is doing this to me has been my friend for three years now, and she asks me point blank, I can't lie to her. She even presses me for specific details about things. She sees what I do as wrong and recently has been really obsessed about changing me. I don't feel I have to change, she just has to be more accepting of me. I love this girl to death, we have been through a lot together, and she is too important to shut out.
At the same time, she hurts me... a lot. I just don't know what to do about it.
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Alas, this is a problem where there may be no really good solution...she's convinced that your business is hers, & it's her job to save you...& you love her too much to tell her to butt out...I have had such friends, & I have no easy answers, save to suggest that next time she insists on digging into your life & saving you from what she perceives as your immorality, you gently deflect her by changing the subject..."hey look, it's Halley's Comet!" 
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