I've put out more "Welcum to Pixies" than I dare to count! I've replied to introduction threads with enthusiasm and warmth. I enjoy meeting new Pixies and I let them know I am glad that they have posted. I've tried to steer them in the right direction when it comes to "getting to know us".
I've only ever come across a newbie that rubs me the wrong way a handful of times. Hey! We can't love everyone all of the time! And when I get a vibe from someone that doesn't sit right with me, I try to get to the bottom of it. On a few occasions I have said some (IMHO) "diplomatic" things directly in a thread...that could be construed as flaming. In all honesty, if the poster comes off as cocky and a know-it-all...I've tried to "set the record straight" about how we handle things around here. I can count on one hand, how many times I have jumped to the defense of the site and raised a rash of shit over the audacity of a newbie! I think that some people just love showing off their self imposed intelligence or wit...which in some cases comes off as pushy and can be off putting. [We] don't take lightly to someone initiating a mutiny...just as we wouldn't let someone come into our R/L home and try and take over! You can't expect us to never "stick up" for our home away from home!!!!
I can only remember one past Pixie newbie who I could NOT warm up to...or at the very least...not want to kick his ass if we'd ever met in person...lmfao!
You are a people pleaser Lil...and so I can understand your discomfort if it seems someone isn't being treated with kid gloves upon notification that he/she is overwhelming us with their visible pomposity (<---Steph...I used it again...lol!...sorry...inside joke!). We can't possibly be expected to overlook a newbie who is in his/her own bizzaro world! I've even read some posts from you Lil...putting someone "in check" directly in an open forum thread! We have our limits. We are only human. And, most newbies who come here, can see the type of site we are. They can see that this site is so totally different than the others...they can see the love shared amoungst the family of people who make up Pixies.
Those who stay and participate (or even just lurk) are assured that not all who come here are perfect candidates for the "People's Choice Awards"...but that it's the differences that make it so interesting to come back to time and time again! Our "Welcum Mat" is dusted daily...and mostly all of the regulars reach out and extend that personality that is the make-up of the Pixies persona! Everywhere you look in these forums...there is something to smile about. And if a newbie doesn't take the time to look around, even after direction, then I can't say I/we didn't try hard enough!
One bad apple don't spoil the whole bunch...just as one bad post doesn't deter new faces to peek in and/or join in from time to time. We can lead a newbie to perving...but we can't make em stay if they don't want to!
I don't know that there is anything else I, or [we], can do that we haven't been doing through the years! But, if you want...I'll jump the bones of ALL the new male...oh hell, even the females if they'll have me...newbies for a month of Sunday's. Just to show them the ropes...of course
((((((Lilith))))))