Originally Posted by boilergirl1

i like what lilith said alot here's my 2$ worth(inflation):

when you make a point of working on you and are truly focused on that alone things do happen. In my case i had just come off of a really dreadful marriage and was still in the process of assembling myself and my heart. I truly and most definately was NOT, i repeat NOT looking to find anyone at all. furthest thing from my mind, at the time. then due to some circumstances beyond my control (or fate/destiny)whatever) i found myself in the care of a very real human being who asked nithing of me and whom offered his tiny trailer as a temp refuge for my daughter and my self. I was at bottom as they say and so i took what was offered in the spirit it was offered as. Let me just say that at that time i did not find him even remotely attractive and that other than being grateful for the help had no thought of anything other than a possible friendship. As the next few weeks/months passed and i came to know this human bean i found that he was unique in so many ways that were highly unusual for the male species(no offense pixies guys) And he backed up his words with actions that would speak to anyone who was paying attn with their hearts. And the rest as they say is history that was ten years ago and although we have had our downs and our ups the middle ground seems to take up more space we live sleep and work together as well as working on the road if you can live in a motel room the size of a postage stamp and still come out friends then i suspect that it will last forever. i don't know if any of this will help you but stay strong and walk tall for yourself for you are a rightous human bean and ."....no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should."