It's a tough lesson to learn sometimes...just because you're right for him, doesn't mean he's right for you. I remember feeling terribly confused because a college bf loved me down to my toes, but I just couldn't seem to settle for him. He was good to me, but he wasn't what I needed. I kept saying that it wasn't fair that I was perfect for him, until a friend bluntly pointed out that I was kidding myself. I couldn't be perfect for him if I didn't want him. Saddest breakup of my various ones...but couldn't be helped.

But from what you've said I kind of wonder if your husband really understands you're deeply unhappy. You say he knows...but does he think you're just having a winge, or does he really get that you're getting ready to walk out? It may well be that he might be more willing to try/work at things if he knew you were closer to a crisis point than he believes. I'm not saying it will or won't work out in the end. I don't know either him or you well enough to even guess. But I do think that communication is always key to keeping a relationship healthy, and it's ironically usually the first thing to break down when there are troubles.

G