Okay, I've read the thread now.

I'm going to make a really wild, out of the blue, odd suggestion. From some of the sounds of it, she may want to be dominated. I would need more information to be certain, but that's how it sounds.

http://www.castlerealm.com/

This is an excellent site to help you understand women who want or need this.

The first most important and serious thing I can tell you about this is this... whatever you do, go about bringing it up with absolute love, care, and concern. It's not a simple thing, and it's important that you introduce her to the idea slowly and build up trust. If you discover that she's a submissive woman, and the next day tell her to get on her knees and suck you off, you'll ruin everything in one instant. Don't do it, you'll destroy her emotionally and mentally with that bullshit.

And the next thing I want to say is that you should never, ever, at any time, assume that just because she's submissive and wants to be dominated (IF YOU DISCOVER THAT AT ALL) it means she wants to be hurt or given pain. Particularly in the asian culture, domination is mental, not physical, so it's unlikely that she'll be interested in whips and chains, you'll have to be more creative than that.

In my opinion, and that's all it is, and please, please, tread carefully here.... she is a submissive woman. She does look to you for guidance, thus she expects YOU to the one who tells her whether or not it's digusting to do this or that. But in order to be able to tell her that it's desirable behavior from her, you must earn her trust on a deep, fundamental level.

Notice I said EARN it. Keep in mind that to truly dominate a woman, it must be something she's aware of, and that she's GIVING to you. All control over another person is given. As a submissive who left my controlling (note I didn't say dominating, but controlling) husband who decided to force control over me, let me tell you that it's a rough road to recovery and to allowing yourself to trust again afterwards.

That is the effect you can have on this woman... you can teach her that her submissive nature (again, assuming that's how she is!! and she may not be!!!!) is a good, beautiful, desirable, wonderful thing. Or, you can destroy her by preying upon it and being a devourer who violently attempts to rip her freedom from her. If you do the second, you WILL lose in the end, it WILL come back to bite you horribly and painfully.



I am offering this site to you, as it seems that you may have a woman on your hands who "needs your guidance and instruction" and actually wants it to be thus.

It teaches you how to guide from a hand of gentleness and compassion, how to be a loving "master" instead of a demonic destroying incubus. It teaches you your responsibilities, it guides you in the proper approach to her and in how to protect her and meet her needs. That is the give and take of this sort of relationship. Do not look into it lightly, because the weight of being a master or "dom/me" is a heavy one, and only a fool attempts it without genuine wisdom, understanding, and caution.

In particular, pay close close attention to this particular page before even THINKING about approaching her with the concept: http://www.castlerealm.com/subspace/subneed.htm

And again, if you are not ready to accept a VERY heavy responsibility, don't even think about clicking those links, because you will fail if you are not ready to become truly responsible and to have the overwhelming, omnipresent weight of having someone else's life and hopes in your hands. If you think about that for a while, and don't get a sense of awe and fear so intense it gives you goosebumps and moves you nearly to tears, you're not ready to even consider it. It's that important, it's that heavy a responsibility.