Well I am new to Pixies but I have been in your shoes before. I have been hurt many times before and there have been times that it has taken me a lot time to open up to some one else. What worked for me is the fact that i took it slow and told the person that i am with that i have been hurt many times before and i would like to take it at a pace that is comfortable to me. you have to keep the lines of communications open for this to work and if the guy is nice he will understand and respect you wishes. If not then the guy does not deserve you affection and is some you that you need to drop him

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