Thanks everyone!!

Loulabelle- Yes I admit that I am sendind a mixed message by going to therapy, but my rational for that is: if it helps me maintain a cohesive relationship with her, as she raises my son, he lives with her- I get him 1 or 2 days a week, and we can present some form of a united front when parenting him, it will be worth it.

We have had a very divided front when it comes to parenting her girls, and that has been a huge part of our problems, and I want to avoid a repeat of that situation with my son.

Yes, it "should" automatically be different as I AM his parent, unlike the girls, but I'm not going to allow myself to be pushed to the back burner with my own child, as I was with the other 2 children involved.