I'm an old fashioned guy..I don't read instructions,let alone books,lol..If the place is kept like a shrine,I get edgy,too..When I'm working on,or fixing something,it's likely to get messy,so I like a place that has a "lived in" look.Plenty of time to clean up,but being spontaneous is important,and that's hard to be when living in sterile conditions.Music collection is nice to see.You can tell a lot about someone's personality,by the music they listen to.
If there are kids involved,I look for interaction,also.If the kids run Mom,I start poppin rolaids,and go home,lol..If it's decorated with really lacey stuff,it's a turn off to me..So,by my attitude,you can see that I don't get to see the bedroom a lot,so I have no opinion there.As long as there's a place on the headboard,to fasten the cuffs..
Jim

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