Rhythm........ heard a Domme/ madame speaking on the radio about stroke length and setting up a rhythm. She advised no more than 6 shorts followed by at most 2 deep. Set up a comfortable rhythm and stick too it. I know that the shorts leave me aching for the deep and the angst I feel when I know the shorts are beginning again, make me plead for the deep. This sort of steady rhythm allows the woman to work with you and puts her in a state of anticipation.

Any thoughts?

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I can guarantee that if a rhythm like that was followed and continued to the point that I would be aching, (nice) I would suddenly turn my man over and take him.......

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Are you talking about spanking, or insertion? I know that when I spank my partner, I typically set up a rhythm. Then, of course, every now and then, I pull on of the blows so as to not make contact. Lets her know that anticipation and tensing just doesn't work. AS far as insertion goes, well, my various lovers are to fond of different things to deal with any sort of regular rhythm.

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was speaking of stroke length

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I agree that stroke length needs to be varied, it helps me last longer and my lady to take her time to the top... as you say the anticipation of the deep stroke drives her wilder... changing depth and positions often all work for us.

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No fans of consistency? that it can be varied but needs to be consistently varied?

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Habit of being habitual

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See her point is the shorts make you ache for the deeps......more shorts less deeps. Consistency allows the woman to participate more. She can plead for the deeps and arch up to meet them.

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too much thinking

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yes and counting strokes makes a change from the '77 Yankees team

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exactly the point......

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I am definitely for consistency. I hate when it's varied. I had a lover once who would do 1-3 deep strokes and then pause. He said he did it so that he wouldn't come so fast. It drove me nuts, but not in a good way. I'd just start getting built up and then drop back down to zero over and over again. With my present lover, one of our favorites is missionary but with him raised up some. Then he more or less lies still, and I f**k him. That way I can be in charge of how consistent, how deep, how hard, how long, etc.

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This is an old trick, and it's in a lot of Tantric literature.

Yes, sex is cerebral and I try to be creative, but this shit works!

I have used the 1-2-3-4-BAM on women who have never had an orgasm with intercouse, and they came! I drove my last girlfriend wild with this a few times, and she was wildly orgasmic already.

I have done studies on repetetive music, from baroque ostinati to current techno/house. My conclusion so far is that since our body pulses at an irregular rhythm, the imposition of a regular rhythm, like tribal drums, induces counter rhythms within our body and brain which stimulate primitive desires. Which leads us to the use of repetetive rhythms in religious ceremony, music, and yes (yes, yes, oh god yes...) sex.

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