Last night my brother (age 16, almost 17, and not allowed to have a girlfriend yet by mom's rules) came into my room and started asking me questions about dating, relationships, and when would be a good age to start having sex. I told him we'd talk about things another day, as I wasn't prepared for this subject being brought up. Now, if this had been a sister, I might not have felt *as* uncomfortable, but it got me to thinking...


Growing up, did you and your siblings talk about sex and share your experiences?

Is the topic ever brought up now that you are adults?

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Who in the hell would ever have sex with my creep, brother????



No we never discussed it. He is 31 and married but I am sure still a virgin

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LMAO@Lil


Ah yes! Sibling love.

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I have to agree with Lilith on this.... ok both my brothers have kids.... but are you sure they are thiers?

No, never talked about it as kids, may have if they had asked, not sure. (I'm the oldest, 2 younger brothers)

It hasn't come up yet as adults.... but if it does I think we could talk about it. Well certainly with the youngest, he & I have always talked. But the older one it'd be a little harder to talk about, him being 'Mr Perfect-know-it-all' type.

Yes PF, another fine example of sibling love. lol -- Teddy

I never got the chance, my mom was a bit liberal and when my then 12 year old sister had a bunch of friends over. My mom came in with a banana and taught all these young girls how to put on a condom....Some of the parents were not pleased.

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Ugh no. I never talked to either of my brothers about sex. Me being the baby and the only girl, they probably think I am still a virgin even though I am married with children lol

LMAO @skipthisone

My sister and I are less than two years apart, with me being the oldest. When my sister and I were in high school, we didn't really talk about sex or anything like that. She was always a bit more advanced than me in a number of areas. Now that we're older she doesn't want to know *anything* about my sex life. What she *does* know she thinks is knows too much.

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I don't know how to say this w/o sounding harsh, and I sure don't mean to. I was sad, though, that you were not able to talk w/him when he approached you. I certainly understand that it caught you off guard. I sure hope that you will be able to talk w/him soon, however, and let him know that coming to you was fine.

You have a great opportunity w/your intelligence and insight, especially as a woman, to give him some wonderful advice and opinions. You could have a wonderful influence on him. I hope you are very flattered that he thought so highly of you and your opinion that he would come to you for that information. I'd sure prefer that my brother come to me than to his friends who may be misinformed, if he didn't feel comfortable going to your parents.

I know it is easy for me to say all that, because I have always been comfortable talking about all of those things w/my siblings or even friends who wanted some advice or who needed information. My brother is 7 years younger than I am; in fact, today is his birthday (Happy Birthday, Dave!), and he did come to me when he was about your brother's age. It was one of the last conversations we were ever able to have before communication between us was cut off for several years. I was so glad that he wanted to know what I thought about it all.

We've been communicating w/one another for a number of years again now, and we still bounce the topic of sex and relationships off one another. I'm so grateful that we feel close enough to do that.


I hope someday you will feel that way, too. Like I say, it is such a wonderful opportunity to have an influence on him in that area for what may be years to come.

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It wasn't a matter of "eew, I don't want to talk about this," but more so the element of surprise. I *do* understand that he came to me about this because my parents are going to shut him down and not answer his questions, but I am still unsure of what I *should* be telling him when he does ask the Q's. At his age, I certainly won't be giving TOO intimate of details about my own sex life, but I'm happy to act as a resource about women or direct him to information that is out of my realm of knowledge. I'm sure he does know basics, as he's had sex ed in school and he has been caught several times with porn on his PC and my mother found a Playboy (given to him by a friend) under his bed when he was in 8th grade. I also know that I don't want to be encouraging him to have sex at this age, but I do hope he would tell me or ask out my advice on protection or whatever before he goes and does it.

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I totally agree w/you, BCG. I think you'll find a way to help him w/o having to go into details about your own personal sex life. It'll be great practice for when you have your own kids, too, because you more than likely aren't going to want to go into detail about your own sex life at that time either. I sure wish you and your brother luck!

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You'll never find a place with a more rounded view and yet sound information when it's time to be serious than Pixies.

Why don't you give him the web address and tell him to read like hell for 3 weeks. (will make a memorable summer read )









LOL

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Sure but my brother has cooties

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PF he is 16 ...I am still uberbitch especially about kids!


give him this URL


http://www.puberty101.com/

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One man's dream is another man's nightmare~~~~> §¤ Lilith ¤§
~>My Scribbles<~
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That's what will make it memorable
He can drive a car and carry a gun.

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Thanks BlueSwede and Lil

PF, even if he WAS old enough, I still don't think he could handle us. Nor would I want to let on about my secret Pixies life!

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